Will You Adults Stop Your Whining and Just Manage Children’s Behaviour Properly!
I can feel a super rant coming on… A little boy’s just started in my class and his behaviour in school is totally dreadful! He’s been allowed to behave like this for years and he’s just had his 8th birthday. Its astounding! Perhaps I shouldn’t be shocked – I deal with cases like this time after time. It’s part of my job of managing the behaviour of children who are so out of control that their next step is to be thrown out of school for good.
Anyway, this little guy’s behaviour is very bad…
The rant isn’t about this little boy…. No, he’s not the problem as he’ll be fine before we know it…
I’m actually ranting about the adults in this boy’s school and so many other schools I have dealings with! Those adults who’ve allowed this little boy to deteriorate into the awful state he’s now in. They’re dire and dreadful!
What on earth have they done to make me rant to this degree? They’ve only written to a ‘higher authority’ complaining about this little guy! They can’t be responsible in any way, can they? So much easier to whinge and moan, eh?
And their intended outcome? I would imagine they’d like this ‘problem’ to disappear from the radar and not re-appear!
Come on Liz, surely that’s reasonable and they’d want him to go to another school? No, it is not reasonable – in fact it’s totally unreasonable… Why? Well, as I’ve said so many times, children’s behaviour is an adult problem. Ok, kids are behaving badly, but why? Because the adults are getting it so wrong, that’s why…
Adults have to accept that they are responsible for children’s behaviour – and those in this boy’s school have allowed him to deteriorate to this point. Whingeing and whining about a situation that adults in general have allowed to get worse and worse, isn’t going to have any beneficial impact, is it?
Why do kids behave badly? Simple… because they can and nobody does anything about it to stop it happening !! Well apart from whinge and whine and moan that is… and that’s hardly effective, is it?
If adults want to see changes in children’s behaviour they have to look at their own behaviour first. The only way children’s behaviour will change is if adults make changes to their own behaviour. It can’t happen any other way.
In short adults, you must get a grip! You may not know what to do but the answer is pretty straight forward. Learn what you have to do to manage children’s behaviour and start to do what an adult should do… manage kid’s behaviour!
A fairly short rant. Rant now over.
Liz Marsden is a highly experienced and successful children’s behaviour management specialist. She uses her expertise to train teachers, trainee teachers and parents to prevent children’sren’s extreme behaviour. Visit Liz’s website where you can access her highly recommended book and learn about her behaviour management techniques that are seen to work time after time.