Can I Turn a Bootycall Into a Boyfriend?
Many people ask me: Is it possible to turn a bootycall into a boyfriend? Yes I have encountered that question many times by now. And instead of giving you the usual “It depends (on nothing)” as an answer, I’ve decided to ask few of my male friends – they are different types ranging from the boyfriend material to the bootycall boy material. So here we go, the answer to women’s most asked question:
Alright, it depends on how the relationship was started. Basically, if you started by having a one night stand with him, then instead of ending it there, you both followed up by having few but more infrequent night stands, then you are probably in what is called as the true bootycall relationship. When you have this, unfortunately it is going to be very hard to turn this bootycall into a boyfriend.
The good news is though, you can figure out what is the chance that it MAY happen very easily. All you need to do is stop acting like a bootycall to him, and see if he even wonder around the idea that he might want to take you out on real dates. Of course, it is way easier to be said than done.
So how are you going to do it? The Best way to stop being a bootycall to him is to replace the sleeping together with actual dates. I mean, I’m not saying you should never ever sleep with him again…but you should at least hold back some of the times. Otherwise, when are you going to have a real date with a real conversation? So If he takes too long to take you out on real date, go and ask him! it’s not illegal to ask a man out, trust me.
And how do you know he’s keen? Hm, I won’t get to too much details here, as common sense should tell you this. Take notice of his actions instead of his words. Just ignore his excuse and pay attention on whether or not he actually MAKES time to meet you on a real date rather than pretendig to be busy or suggesting “coming over for dessert” instead. Basically, if he’s keen to go out on a real date minus the intimacy, your chance gets higher on turning this bootycall into a boyfriend. Otherwise, don’t worry too much and just move on.
A lot of women think that if they do a certain set of things, they may be able to change a guy’s focus from getting laid to wanting a relationship. Look, I know it may not sound very fair, but these sort of things are really depending on the men and how ready they are in terms of relationship. Although some men are in the grey area of not knowing if he’s ready, some other men are definite that they don’t want a relationship at that certain stage.
Don’t start thinking that a man will get closer to a woman by just sleeping with her. Of course, he would get closer to her physically and to an extent, but he is still a stranger emotionally. Men have two different containers in their head i.e. sex and relationship. So really, you are asking a separate question altogether i.e. “Is he interested to be my boyfriend, or am I only a bootycall?